If I could go back in time, I would do a lot of things differently.
The more I thought about this statement, the more I thought. From elementary school to high school… college… to being a wife, a friend, a sister… don’t even get me started on being a mother.
We all have regrets. We all have “I should have” and “I wish I’d”. Some more than others, but we all have them.
But this is the thing. We have to stop. “Don’t mourn what you can’t change”; “Learn from your mistakes. You wish you had more confidence as a teen? How is your confidence working for you today? You wish you’d been nicer to someone? Reach out and apologize. You should be a better parent? Forgive yourself and focus on your strengths.
Being a part of solutions is why I love what I do. Watching clients learn how to communicate with their spouses, their children, and their colleagues better is rewarding. Listening to clients make better choices consciously, and feel proud of themselves is terrific. Hearing how clients are no longer depressed or anxious because of new strategies they are using is priceless.
What can you do today that will make tomorrow better? What can you learn from your past- your mistakes, your failures, your insecurities, your heartbreaks- to build a better you?
That is what we do in my office. Life not only can become better. It does.